Self-esteem, or feeling positive about ourselves has long been a subject of psychological study. Self-acceptance expands this concept to: knowing our strengths and our weaknesses, coming to terms with our past and feeling okay or good about ourselves while being aware of our limitations. Importantly, self-acceptance doesn't mean ignoring what we don't do well or mistakes we've made, but it's about working with rather than against ourselves.
Albert Ellis, a renowned psychologist, described two choices: accepting ourselves conditionally (i.e. only under certain conditions, for example when we succeed) or unconditionally (under all circumstances). The first choice he says "is deadly". If we don't fulfill the conditions we set ourselves, and so fail, we think of ourselves as a loser or good for nothing rather than accepting failing as a normal part of life and learning from it.
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